Clare (![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} illessa) wrote in ohnefuehlen, |
Sorry, this is all rather rough and over-simplified, I'm at work, so just jotting down thoughts as they come.
That whole bit's really dodgy anyway, I mean from what I've read on the subject (and I'll freely admit it wasn't recently), there's no real evidence of any kind of connection between biological parents and their children other than pure genetics. There's also at least some evidence that children develop the emotional connection to their mother over a long period of care, not in their first moments as is commonly thought, so even the "Snatched away from their mother at birth" thing shouldn't have any real impact. Basically as much as knowing who your biological parents are can factor into your identity and understanding the way you are, the people who care for you in your first years of life are the people who really count in these matters.
The more I think about the idea that adoptions should be hetrosexual couples only, the sillier it gets though. I mean it basically implies that (f'rinstance) if an adoption agency were trying to match by similarity to birth parents as he seems to think they should, and they had a choice between a lesbian couple who happen to be distant relations of both of the birth parents, and a hetrosexual couple who are completely different, different nationality, religion, physical appearance, social background, interests blahblahblah. The child should go to the heterosexual couple because they more closely resemble the original family unit.
I also love the utterly irrelevent example of "Just ask children whose parents have divorced if they do not often feel that their natural rights have been violated." Besides the laughable idea of asking a kid whether they "Feel their natural rights have been violated", the fallout of something that impacts the child in a tangible way (even if they weren't old enough to remember the divorce itself, there's still visiting and so forth), is hardly the same as something they don't even remember. Besides which I'm sure there are a few children out there who are mostly pretty happy with their parents being divorced, whether it's because of their parents' bad marriage becoming an amicable relationship post-seperation, or an escape from an abusive biological parent.
That whole bit's really dodgy anyway, I mean from what I've read on the subject (and I'll freely admit it wasn't recently), there's no real evidence of any kind of connection between biological parents and their children other than pure genetics. There's also at least some evidence that children develop the emotional connection to their mother over a long period of care, not in their first moments as is commonly thought, so even the "Snatched away from their mother at birth" thing shouldn't have any real impact. Basically as much as knowing who your biological parents are can factor into your identity and understanding the way you are, the people who care for you in your first years of life are the people who really count in these matters.
The more I think about the idea that adoptions should be hetrosexual couples only, the sillier it gets though. I mean it basically implies that (f'rinstance) if an adoption agency were trying to match by similarity to birth parents as he seems to think they should, and they had a choice between a lesbian couple who happen to be distant relations of both of the birth parents, and a hetrosexual couple who are completely different, different nationality, religion, physical appearance, social background, interests blahblahblah. The child should go to the heterosexual couple because they more closely resemble the original family unit.
I also love the utterly irrelevent example of "Just ask children whose parents have divorced if they do not often feel that their natural rights have been violated." Besides the laughable idea of asking a kid whether they "Feel their natural rights have been violated", the fallout of something that impacts the child in a tangible way (even if they weren't old enough to remember the divorce itself, there's still visiting and so forth), is hardly the same as something they don't even remember. Besides which I'm sure there are a few children out there who are mostly pretty happy with their parents being divorced, whether it's because of their parents' bad marriage becoming an amicable relationship post-seperation, or an escape from an abusive biological parent.
